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Grow A Pair, Will Ya?

Date: 21 May, 2014

By: Chief

Imagehen perhaps you will quit whining and get on with your life.

Key-rist, if there is one thing I loathe more than a liar and a thief it is a whiner. And over the past twenty or thirty years it seems as if that is all that we are producing — worthless, sniveling, whiners. They are an absolute waste of perfectly good oxygen.


Face it, the world, at least wherever humans are, is for the most part a pretty brutal and nasty place. Why? Because people have made it that way and for reasons which are completely unfathomable to me intend to keep it brutal and nasty. It just goes to show that ignorance is attempting to take over the planet. However, I digress.

What parents no longer instill in their children is toughness. Both physical and far more importantly — mental toughness. In case you haven't figured it out that is where the 'grow a pair' comes in.

By the way the 'grow a pair' is a figure of speech. An analogy if you prefer. Because it doesn't matter whether you are a boy or a girl, you still need to grow a pair and the younger the better. As I have already stated the world is brutal and nasty place. I do not believe that is going to change anytime soon.

Yet if you do attempt to instill toughness in your children you very quickly will run into a problem — zero tolerance policies. Schools are a big proponent of these insidious rules. Take fighting for example — if some kid picks a fight with you and you deck the bully both kids get suspended for fighting. That is utterly insane. The kid who started the fight should be suspended. Even I can understand that. But not the kid who stood up to the bully. He did nothing wrong whatsoever. But the school policy says zero tolerance so both are suspended. Idiots are in charge of our schools and that must be changed.

Thank you Mr. Mayor

It appears that the Mayor of Porterville, California agrees with my sentiments. Or maybe I agree with his. It really doesn't matter because in this case we are on the same side. At a city council meeting within the last week or so Mayor Cameron Hamilton made his point crystal clear. Quoting CNN:

" 'I'm against bullying, but I'm getting damn tired of it being used as a mantra for everything and the ills of the world', Hamilton said during the City Council meeting. '(Most) people just have to grow a pair and stick up for them damn selves'."

Again sir, I thank you. You nailed it magnificently.

The mayor obviously gets it. He understands. Hopefully, he shall be able to do something constructive about it. It would be oh so nice to see.

He has his detractors of course including Councilwoman Virginia Gurrola and British shrink Simone Bienne. They do not get it and never will. Yet they are both tremendous examples of a 'waste of perfectly good oxygen'. 'Nuff said about them.

The real tough part

When it comes to mental toughness remember this — mental toughness cannot be taught, but it can be learned.

You, as a parent or grandparent, can only provide:

for your child or grand child. They and only they can take those ideas, that framework and your support and mentally chew it over and finally decide that they can cut it. They can be tough without turning into a bully. Most important of all they learn that some things are worth getting in trouble for. Sticking up for your:

to list just a few.

Consider for a moment, if you will, what keeps a person from turning to drugs or alcohol when the chips are down? Mental toughness. What allowed our Marines at Tarawa, Iwo Jima and Khe Sanh to emerge victorious? Mental toughness.

Like it or not and I really do not give a good hoot in hades which side of the coin you land on but mental toughness is what separates the victor from the vanquished. It is indeed that simple.

A harsh lesson

Becoming mentally tough is part of growing up and I do believe it is one of the hardest lessons we all had to learn. The problem nowadays, to a large degree thanks to zero tolerance policies, educated idiots (re: Simone Bienne) and politicians who cannot find their butts with both hands a map and a flashlight (why yes, Virginia Gurrola, I am talking about you), our posterity is not learning this critical lesson of life. Of course apathetic parents don't help either.

Finally, for your enlightenment, courage is another word for mental toughness.

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